How Straight Men Are

When men have had great sex they are at their best behavior afterward

Men seek new relationships to relieve the hurt of a breakup because they have no other support system

Men cheat because they can, because the opportunity arises and this does not mean that they are dissatisfied with their wife or the woman they're with

Men are OK talking to women they are not sexually interested in - it is attractive women that make them nervous

The only reason a man asks a woman out is because he hopes to f*ck her

If a guy spends weekend nights with a woman, that means he's interested because he doesn't waste waste these precious nights for just anyone.

If a guy avoids dating a woman more than once a week (and weeknights at that) he is not interested, he's keeping that girl on the 'we'll see' list

Guys generally don't talk to friends and family about their feelings because they do not want to be perceived as sissies

Men are sexually attracted to a woman either immediately or never

Physiological changes in response to this original attraction:

The man may go slightly weak at the knees

Feel hot & sweat

Become tachycardic

Men will say anything to get a woman in bed

Most friends have two or three very close friends and a larger group of acquaintances

Male "friends" would secretly really like to f*ck the woman they "befriend", on some level

The two male motivators are money and sex

-Sex

-Comfort

-Companionship

If a guy doesn't call, he's not that interested

Men seek companionship, comfort, emotional support and sex

Men want to do similar activities with their partners

The better the sex, the more fulfilling men find the relationship

Men like women with long, flowing hair

Men likes boobs, asses

Men generally don't have sexual thoughts about prepubescent girls

Men like curvy women with no leg, armpit or leg hair

Men don't like too skinny or muscular or fat girls

If they are f*cking a fat girl, they'll go out of their way to hide the fact (and the girl) from their friends)

Men like women that are noisy during sex (screamers, moaners, groaners)

Men are not really sure they like a girl until they've f*cked her

Men generally don't like workaholic women because they know they will not be available to them

Men like women who participate actively, aggressively and enthusiastically in sex

Men like women to take the lead and give instructions in sex


Psyche

Men like women who are genuinely kind to them and interested in them

Men don't like women who talk about their exes

Professional men like generous, caring, sexy, secure, health-conscious, fun-loving, easy going, open-minded, emotionally stable, intelligent, women with a sense of humor, whom they can be proud of

Men do not respect women who have sex too soon in the relationship

Men are idealistic and conservative about the woman they want to marry

Approach

Men approach far less women than they'd like to

They normally just stare

The most common cause is fear of rejection



Before 28-29 years old, men have no goals or plans for their relationship; they are simply having a good time

If they get married before that age, that is usually not their idea

Men don't really want to learn about your past because they're afraid they won't measure up

Men are literal

Subtlety is lost on most men

Men find it difficult to say "I love you" to the woman they love and usually show it with deeds

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Most men want to perform anal sex at least once

Men are visually oriented

Men LOVE blow jobs

Men like periodic eye contact during blow jobs but will never ask for it

Men like women who swallow

Naked sex feels so much better

Kiss it softly on the head and shaft

You may have heard guys complain about condoms, saying they kill the mood or whatever

It's true, they are kind of annoying

They kill spontaneity

You can't smoothly progress from foreplay to sex

You have to stop the action to go grab a condom, open it, and then put it on

They smell badly

They kill sensation, sometimes to the point where you can barely feel your own dick inside the girl

On the plus side, they can allow you to last longer

Sometimes when you're inside the girl they'll bunch up in weird ways and feel strange

They interrupt the flow of things after sex is over

You have to pull out, take the condom off, and get rid of it

General differences from masturbation and porn

If I had to give a simplified summary I'd say masturbating is all about the visuals while actual sex is more about physical feelings

Of course masturbation is about the physical feelings too, but if you're anything like me, the visuals drive the experience and provide most of the excitement

When you're using your imagination you keep flipping between different scenarios until you hit on one that does it for you

When you watch porn you probably skip around between different DVD scenes or online clips until you hit on one that turns you on the most.

With sex some positions give you something to look at, but you're hardly sitting in a chair watching a scene that has been shot from a distance and angle that gives you a good view

If you're doing a girl in the missionary position you're too close to her to see anything

Your eyes are probably closed, or if they're open they may not be focused on anything

You're probably kissing her or you may have your head nuzzled in her neck

Cut off from the visuals you instead concentrate on the tactile sensations;

your dick going in and out of her vagina, your bodies pressed together, her hands scratching your back, her breath on your cheek, how hot you are, the sweat forming on the small of your back, your hands grabbing her boobs, kissing, and various little aches, tired spots, and discomforts

And then there are the sounds and smells;

body parts slapping together, her breathing and moaning

The smell of latex, sweat, someone's breath, or her vag

Of course, sometimes when you're going at it you'll be picturing things in your head to help yourself get off

Like maybe your girlfriend is going down on you and that feels pretty nice, but not quite perfect, so you imagine a porn scene or hot girl you saw the other day to get yourself over the edge

Also, when you watch porn you can mistakenly associate the visual act you're witnessing with the sensations you're giving yourself

For example, say you have a thing for titty fucking scenes in porn

And let's say as you're watching, you're masturbating in a fast, intense manner

You know your body so of course it's going to feel good

But actual titty fucking probably doesn't feel like your fast, intense, just-right wanking

The true physical sensations may or may not be your cup of tea

You may find them too slow or soft for your tastes and be disappointed in the real thing

Here's another example: Maybe when you watch porn you really like the reverse cowgirl position (girl on top facing away from the guy)

As a third party observer this position gives you something to look at

But when you're actually the guy all you see is the girl's back and, again, the sensations of her riding you aren't the same as the just-right wanking feelings you gave yourself when you were watching two other people doing it

Some Other Observations

Obviously in real life it's a lot more sweaty, clumsy, grunty, and primal than dramatic Hollywood love scenes make it out to be

In porn the positions are all about making the sex visible to the camera and to give you a good look at the woman's body

In real life concerns such as being close to each other often take precedence

Personally I've never had sex under the sheets

They just get in the way

Men love dirty talk, both explicit and suggestive

If you watch porn you may wonder why the guy's erection is sometimes slow to grow

You're thinking that if you were in his shoes you'd be as hard as a rock in a second

Nope, the same thing will happen to you

Once the intial thrill of hooking up with this girl/girls in general wears off, your erection will often start to get soft when your penis isn't being directly stimulated

Being drunk, being distracted, and bad technique on the girl's part can contribute to your not getting it up quickly

After putting on a condom you may need to jerk yourself off for a second to get it a bit harder before you stick it in her

If it's not hard enough you'll have a hard time putting it in

It'll tend to bend or slide out of the way instead of penetrating

However, if it's slightly soft and you manage to get in it, you can often get it harder quickly once you start thrusting

If the sex isn't great and/or you're distracted and/or something messed up happens you may start to go soft once you're inside her

Men fantasize about and crave a variety of women

It's hard to explain, but when you stick your fingers in a girl's vagina, it can feel different each time

I think it has to do with how aroused she is

Overall, inside there's a bit of a tunnel, then it opens to a wider space

Sometimes the tunnel feels firm and smooth

At other times it feels more loose and spongy

Sometimes the tunnel feels fairly short, and the wide space feels bigger

At other times the tunnel feels longer

Of course how slippery it is can vary

The feeling you get after losing your virginity isn't as great as you'd imagine

You may think that you'll be on Cloud 9 for days after finally popping your cherry...

The monkey is definitely off your back, but rather than feeling on top of the world you just feel a bit calm and mentally quiet

However, whenever things come up that used to remind you of your virginity, you start to feel bad for a second before going 'Oh yeah, I'm not a virgin any more...'

When you're getting regular sex you don't so much feel more happy as you feel less unhappy

Getting laid once won't solve all your problems

Yes, the monkey and stigma is gone but now instead of being, say, a 22-year old who's never had sex, you're a 22-year old who's had sex once

You still have a way to go

You're still the same person you were before you stuck your penis into a girl's vagina

If you hate your job you'll still hate it

If your parents annoy you they'll still annoy you

If you're awkward around people you'll still be awkward around people

Getting laid isn't a cure-all

Your confidence will increase, but not in some dramatic life-changing way

If you've been fantasizing that you'll never be nervous around women again once you've gotten laid you'll be disappointed

You won't be as desperate and you won't be as intimidated by women, but not to the point where you'll magically become a fearless lady's man

You may have a bit of that feeling for a few days afterward but it will eventually go away

Some people do claim that things got a lot easier for them once they had sex but don't count on it

Once you start getting laid, you're getting laid

You won't care how old you are or how you got there

One good thing is that once you start getting sex, you'll very quickly forget about your past painful years of virginity

You'll immediately start to concern yourself with all the practical matters that go along with being a sexually active person

What age you start doing this at doesn't matter, the concerns are the same

It's like if all your friends have seen a movie, say The Godfather, years ago and you haven't

You'll be left out when they refer to it

But once you've seen it, you've seen it, and you're now equal to everyone else in that regard

It doesn't matter that you first saw it later than they did

Getting laid for the first time is an important milestone, no question about it, but in terms of the practical effect is has on your sex life it's only a start

The real goal is to have had enough sex that it doesn't feel like a big deal anymore and you're comfortable performing the act

Doing anything just once or a couple of times won't achieve this

When you've been getting laid a few times a week for a month or two you've reached this second milestone

16-17 (I lost it at 19)

The circumstances under which you lose your virginity are important

The best-case scenario is losing your virginity to someone you're in a relationship with

That way you can keep getting sex (and practice) in the future

The worst-case scenario is completely fluking into losing it, probably via a drunken one night stand

When all is said and done you still don't have the pieces in place to get it again by yourself any time soon

You'll have technically lost your virginity but you'll still have to put the work into getting laid for the first time "for real"

Paying for it would also have the same result

The average male takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion until he ejaculates

I was 19 and my girlfriend was 16 and yes we were both virgins

We started dating one year before in March and we enjoyed being with each other

We didn't ever really go fast because we never had much time to do anything alone until after 3 months of dating when my dad left town and we both got a little intimate - I fingered her and she gave me and hand job and blow job

Eight months after dating we decided to try and do more but all we really did was that I ate her out for about 10 minutes until she came and then she gave me a blow job till I came

Eleven months after we started dating we were at my home alone and at first we were just making out, fingering each other etc

Then after 30 minutes I reached down to her pants not even thinking and undid her pants and pulled them off

I didn't think about it at all it just sort of happened

Then she pulled my pants off and I put it in her

She threw her head back like she was in pain at first but then I started going slow and then fast and she began to moan and enjoy it

After we were done we lay there looking into each others eyes and kissed

Look my point is me and my girlfriend waited longer then most couples

People say after 5-7 months you should already have had sex

I say its best to wait until you both are certain you want to be together forever

Make sure you love her and she loves you

If you don't smile every time you think about her, if she isn't the first thing you think about when you wake up and the last thing you think about when you go to sleep then I say you aren't ready to have sex that actually means something

Just remember sex is a thing off love, people abuse it for pleasure and have no intention of love for the person

Just make sure you love them before you have sex guys

I lost mine at a hotel near our homes

I wanted to be on top

It was her first time too so I wanted to do everything I could to make it special, beautiful, and memorable

And it was

It wasn't too rough or wild just slow and deliberate so that we could soak up the very essence of each other

Some times we would just stop and I would stay inside her while we kissed and held each other.

The Actual Act Isn't That Complicated

A common virgin fear is that their inexperienced performance will give them away

Sex really isn't that hard

You pretty much put it in and thrust in and out

Within half a minute of starting you'll be thinking, "This is it? That's all there is to it?"

Of course there are lots of subtleties that come into play, but you don't have to worry about that the first time

Here are some additional ways you can take the performance pressure off yourself:

It's not unusual for two new partners to be somewhat nervous and clumsy around each other the first time (girls get nervous too)

They also haven't had a chance to figure each other's bodies and preferences out properly so the sex probably won't be top-notch the first few times

Plenty of more experienced guys are half-assed and clueless in bed

By a certain age most women have hooked up with a (non-virgin) guy who had no idea what he was doing, or who finished in five seconds, or who was generally selfish and thoughtless in the sack

Just because someone doesn't perform well doesn't automatically mean a virgin red flag is raised

The best thing to do is let the girl get on top

That way all you have to do is lay there

Probably the next easiest position is doggy style

It can be a little tricky to find the hole (it's further up than it seems), but once you're in you just have to thrust in and out

You're also a little cut-off from the girl so you won't feel as on the spot

You can do your own thing

Missionary position probably has the most subtle variations in terms of positioning

It's still relatively simple though

Be sure to rest on your elbows or your arms will get tired before long

And you shouldn't be too worried about performing well, or even getting outed, anyways

This is your first time, it's all about you

Trust me, if things don't go 100% according to plan, when it's all said-and-done you won't really care

You'll just to be happy to finally be a non-virgin

I lost it in the afternoon

There were things about foreplay I didn't realize either...

I'm sure you've heard that scrapping teeth don't feel great when you're getting a blow job

Some other things that don't feel great are chapped lips and an overly rough tongue (either from her mouth being dry or having burned it from hot soup or a drink)

Men will have sex anywhere

Guys usually are not sure if a woman has come

What amuses me in movies now is what you could call the 'instant penetration'

You see it all the time if you look for it

A man and woman will be in their underwear, or even fully clothed, in some sexually charged situation

Maybe the woman is sitting on the man's lap (both in their underwear remember), or the man is standing behind the woman

The camera is focused on their faces

Then the guy will make a little movement, the woman will gasp, and then they'll close their eyes and start moaning, the implication being that the man achieved vaginal penetration off-camera

Yeah, not that quick and easy in real life

You've got to move your clothes out of the way, line things up, the guy has to be hard enough, the woman needs to be pretty wet, and often the man has to guide his penis in with his hand

Otherwise it's a much more awkward procedure

You've probably heard jokes about this before

Yep, it can be hard to find the hole

Even if you know where you need to go visually, the vaginal entrance can be smaller and tighter than you think so you may not feel exactly where you need to insert the tip of your penis

With missionary it's fairly obvious where you need to put it, but if you're trying to guide it in blind then it can be awkward

With doggy style the hole is further up then you'd think

When the girl is on top the angle of her vaginal tunnel can give you problems and you can't really see what you're doing

It's best if she guides it in herself

Like I said above, if you're a bit soft then you can have trouble putting it in

If you fail to get it in properly your dick will slide somewhere else and may feel like it's in for a second or two

All this is more difficult if you have a condom on, as it's harder to feel what you're doing

From reading and watching porn I thought positions like missionary, doggy style, woman-on-top, etc. were simple, cut-and-dry things

I soon found out that each one has tons of subtle variations based on things like how you position your legs, the position of her legs, how deep inside her you are in a resting position, the angle you're thrusting in, the position of your upper body, how high or low your hips are on her body, how your bodies fit together, and so on and so on

With some variations her vagina will seem like a straight tunnel that you can easily go in-and-out, in-and-out of

With other variations you're mostly inside her, can only thrust a little, and you're more grinding pelvises together.

For example, if you're in the missionary position:

If you put your legs together and straight back, you'll get a different feeling then if you had them spread out to your sides and had your knees further up on the bed

If she spreads her legs you'll be able to thrust in one way

If she lifts them up and wraps them behind your back, you'll be able to thrust deeper

If you rest on your elbows you'll enter her at one angle and be able to thrust in a certain way

If you straighten your arms and rest on your hands you'll thrust at a different angle

If the top of your hip bone roughly matches up with hers you'll get a certain angle and depth

If you try to 'ride higher' you'll get a different angle and depth

If your upper body is parallel to hers things'll go one way

If you raise your torso up to around 45 degrees things'll be slightly different

What works one way with a petite girl may not feel the same with a girl who's closer to your height

The idea is you have to play around with these variations in position to find a way that feels good for both of you (or just you if you're selfish)

Most men like trying all positions

Experiencing what sex is like will affect your previous fantasies and priorities

If you've gone longer than most guys without getting laid you may have built up all these fantasies and false notions about sex and what you're going to do once you finally start getting it

Once you know what sex is really like the foundations for these fantasies and pie-in-the-sky dreams will get a little shaky

For example you may dream about becoming a player and hooking up with tons of girls to make up for lost time

The content of porn movies probably has a big influence on these visions

Once you get some actual experience you may realize that you really just want to settle down with one cool, sweet girlfriend and that this is preferable to picking up a drunk chubby girl once a month

You might have jerked off a lot to a certain sexual act but your opinion of it may change when you experience what it's actually like

The types of girls you're interested in may change

Having crappy, disappointing sex is another important milestone

It will kill off the last remnants of your past unrealistic expectations

You probably know that the vagina secretes a natural lubricant and that women get 'wet'

I knew that basic fact too, but I learned some more things about the process firsthand

It runs out at some point and she'll get dry, and eventually uncomfortable, during sex

Sometimes you have to pull out and apply some lube

At other times you can keep going for a bit and she'll get wet again

If the girl gets too wet during sex it can reduce the friction to the point where you don't really feel anything

If she's too dry it doesn't feel that great for you either

If enough of it accumulates it has a whitish, mayonnaise look to it

Sometimes you'll finish having sex and when you pull out and look down you'll see a big drop of it running down between her legs

If you're going at in the missionary position, it may run out on to the bed and leave a wet spot on the sheets that's a bit white when it dries

F*ck no!

Men continue to masturbate even after they become sexually active with girls

At times most men stimulate areas other than their cocks, e.g. their testicles and anus

Men love tits

Men don't mind fake boobs

Men love tit f*cking

Men are pretty much secure with their identity

Men are taught to keep their feelings inside

Men like to have their egos stroked

Men like to "rescue" women

Men are goal-oriented

Men like routine and consistency

Men need their fathers to teach them how to be a man

Men are extremely jealous when it comes to their women

Men are by nature polygamous

Men love to know that they are satisfying their woman and are in constant fear of being inadequate

Mens outer bravado usually conceals a soft, insecure interior

Men need to be made feel worthy and competent

A woman climaxing is the most wonderful feeling to a man

The way a man treats his mother is an indicator of how he treats women in general

As a man and a girl become more serious, they do more than date; they:

-do chores together
-shop for clothes together

Men do not need romance

They employ it simply to f*ck women

Men enjoy performing oral sex on women they love and get an ego boost when she enjoys it, but may not do it if the woman is not clean or well-groomed

You probably know this already, but overall sex is messier than what you see on t.v. or in porn

You're going to get hot and sweaty of course

The woman's lubrication is going to dribble all over the place and possibly stain the sheets

Someone is going to get semen on them at some pointCondom wrappers are going to litter the ground

You may kiss passionately and slobber all over each other

Someone may let out a fart right in the middle of things

Sometimes when you pull out and she changes positions she'll fart out her vagina (queefing)

If you finger her your fingers may be covered with a lot of her clear lubricant when you pull them out

You may have to wipe them off on your leg or something - Classy

If you have sex when she's on her period, well use your imagination

If you have anal sex you may get some poo on your dick

If you have a good session, when you're done you're going to be sweaty, red faced, tired, and a bit out of it

Your hair will be messed up, gross stray hairs will be stuck to your skin, the girl will have a bit of white lubricant running out of her cootch

You'll have a bit of cum dribbling out of your dick

There will be at least one condom wrapper on the floor, the sheets and pillows will be all over the place, and the bed will have a wet spot on it

If you cuddle afterwards you'll start to stick together and it'll feel gross when you pull apart - it's great

You may also watch porn and wonder why the guy sometimes has to jerk off for a few minutes before delivering the money shot

You're thinking if you were in that position you'd pop off no problem

Again, the same thing may happen to you. Sometimes you'll be having sex/getting a blowjob/jerking off and you won't be able to cum

If the stimulation isn't effective it can happen

If you put too much pressure on yourself to orgasm on demand it can happen

The more common stereotype is that men finish too quickly and that they have to think about stuff like baseball in order to last any real length of time

But not being able to cum happens too

Not all guys are losers who are done in thirty seconds

Finishing too soon definitely happens, but not every single time

In many cases you're not just going to cum instantly as soon as you start pounding away, you have to find the speed, angle, depth, etc. that feels good for you

It's not automatic, just like you can't just masturbate in any random way

You have to do what's effective for you

On a related note, women don't always want to have marathon sex sessions

Sometimes they'll get tired of the guy stabbing away endlessly, especially if it's not doing anything for them

Sometimes they'll start to get dry and sore

Sometimes they'll have an orgasm or two and think that's enough

Sometimes they'll just be happy with a good twenty minutes of fun sex and not have any need to go for longer

It can be irritating to your skin when your sweaty pubic hair rubs against hers

Someone's hair my get accidentally pulled or caught

Someone may clumsily fall over as you're changing positions (e.g., when she's getting off you from being on top, when you try to transition from missionary with you kneeling and her laying down to missionary with both of you laying down)

You may hit your head against the headboard, har har har

She may hurt your ear by yelling directly into it, you stud you

When you're going at it missionary style you can end up hitting the bottom of your bladder on her pelvic bone

That gets old after ten minutes...

Your knees and elbows can get sore after a while from rubbing on the bed/floor/etc.

During doggy style if you slip out and then accidentally thrust back into her pelvis, it can hurt the tip of your dick

If she's riding you and you slip out she can come down on your dick

Usually it gets bent a little and hurts for a minute

At the worst you can rupture the tissue and take a trip to the hospital

You may get scratches, bruises, pulled hair (purposely this time), and bite marks

That's cool

You may fall off the bed or hit your elbow against the wall or something else like that

You just gotta laugh when this shit happens

Sex isn't that big a deal

If you've never gotten laid you've probably built sex up to be something bigger than it is

Sex is great but it's not on an entirely different plane from other fun experiences people can have

It feels pretty much liked you'd expect it to

It's not 100 times more pleasurable than other sexual activities you can do, especially if you wear a condom, which dulls the sensation

Masturbating by yourself to good porn can often feel physically better than run-of-the-mill humping

At times it can be mundane, boring, tiring, and repetitive

Once you start getting it consistently you start taking it for granted and don't even really think about it all that much

Well you do, but often in a more muted, down-to-earth way

You think of it more of an attainable need to fulfill, rather than a far-off mythical goal

Thinking "This is it?" isn't an uncommon thought people have when they have sex for the first time

Some people are even disappointed and bummed out after because they found it so much less glamorous than it was made out to be

You may even have trouble cumming the first few times because the stimulation is different from the way you normally masturbate

To be clear, when I say sex is not a big deal, I mean it's not the giant, mythical creature you may have made it out to be in your mind

I don't mean to say that it's always dull or that if you're still a virgin, getting it won't make much difference in the quality of your life

It will

Even at mundane levels, sex is awesome more often than not

And once you get past your initial inexperience and cluelessness, it only gets better and better